Last week my daughter (a teenager) slept in. It was a crazy morning in the house. She politely asked if I would drop off the other two at school and return to take her to school in a second trip. I knew the right answer but I didn’t like it. She was in a panicked state having awoken too late. My nurturing instinct was to move mountains to make everything all right.
Nevertheless, I did the hard thing – “No, I cannot.”
I felt like the worst mom ever. In comparison to others. But it isn’t about comparison, it’s about producing kind, well behaved adults. So I said, “no”.
It was hard. But you know what? I survived. I can do hard things. We can do difficult things. No matter the discomfort, we’ve decided the rewards are worth it. A sign of maturity is being able to wait for future rewards. As long as chocolate is available now, I’m good.
Soon it will be National Novel Writing Month(NaNoWriMo).
NaNoWriMo is a simple, bold, courageous commitment to write. Every day. For 30 days. Difficult? Um – yes! Are you going to give this a try? Or do you have other bold, courageous goals for November? I’d love to know about them!
Here are some helpful hints just for you, my friend-who-can-do-hard-things!
Stuck on Topics? Try these 20 Go-To Topics
These 20 topics are always in demand. Start there and come up with your own list.
Is the topic relevant?
Go to other more popular websites in your industry, look at the most viral/shared/social posts. Make a list of 50 or so of these posts. Then categorize them into topics. You’ll have a good idea of 3 – 5 relevant topics right there.
Feedback is important. And social sharing is even more so. If that isn’t happening yet, check in personally with a few readers to see if the content is relevant and useful to them. One telling feature of Chris Brogan’s success is when he “…It was when I started writing to be helpful, instead of giving my opinion.“
Perfectionism Creeping In?
I’m no psychologist and I can’t help anyone get over an innate need to excel or beat everyone else in their niche. But I can say that you don’t have to be perfect to accomplish goals. Smaller goals will make NaNoWriMo seem far more do-able.
Perfectionism often stems from arrogance or low self esteem; two sides of the same coin. This post by Chris Brogan resonated with me and maybe it will speak to you too: This Post Isn’t Worth Your Time.
Help for the Writing-Impaired:
Fancy infographic from the amazing designer at Copyblogger.